Seems to me that I have been a huge enabler to my brother for many many years. All the time receiving far away phone calls when he even became homeless. When is it ever enough for them to hit ‘rock bottom’? Despite losing everything he has MANY times over, including the trust of his own 16 yr old daughter, it does not seem to be enough.
I now fully realize it’s so important to take care of oneself, not to mention my own ‘newer’ family. But alcoholic seems always to need someone to blame for their screw ups, and I’m usually ‘it’.
Also realize that they must WANT to help themselves first and foremost. No matter what you try to do to help them, nothing ever seems to be enough. They always want the past to just remain the past.
But until they get around to making amends, to me….one can forgive, but never forget; especially when continually rubbed in your face.
Only thinks he’s harming himself; but it affects our whole family! How to get them to realize the impact? HELP PLEASE!
