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My brother pleaded guilty because his lawyer told him to, is there anything he can do now?

  • Posted on March 13, 2011 at 12:20 pm

His lawyer said they had a deal with the prosecutors for only one year, of which he could spend on probation. When the judge gave him 6 years for his first ever problem with the law, his lawyer told him that the prosecutor lied. This was a making of meth charge, and it was his wife who made the meth. She was the addict, not Milt. She got 3 years from the same judge because he felt sorry for her. She had a terrible upbringing, etc. Milt and she had only been married a year when this went down. She actually had him convinced that she had Lupus and the only way she could get through her days was with Meth. This man, even though a prison gaurd, knew nothing about Meth. He believed for a whole year that when he took her to the doctors office she was being helped, while she would run out the back door and go to her dealers. This is a May/December romance, Milt being 20 years older, and no match for an addicts many cons. When we tried to tell him there was something wrong with her he would say she had a terrible upbringing and an abusive husband, blah, blah, blah. She has a 14 year old daughter that Milt wanted to be able to come live with them so that they could be a family, but this woman didn’t want her. Milt, the judge, the lawyer and the P’s were all conned. Does Milt have any recourse from doing what his lawyer told him to and then being railroaded? He doesn’t do Meth, or drugs of any kind, he just fell, (Mid-life Crisis?) for the wrong woman. His two children, ages 21 and 23 are just heartsick, everyone who knows and loves him is.

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my husband has a 7 year old daughter who has told us her mothers boyfriend has been hitting her and her mother

  • Posted on December 6, 2010 at 8:17 am

her mother says she does not believe her daughter. although her mother has left her boyfriend in the past for abuse and even filed a restraining order against him. she dropped the restraining order the next day. she refuses to let his daughter come live with us. she knows her situation is bad neither her mother or boyfriend work and they have a convicted felon living with them on house arrest. also last year her mother made her miss 23 days of school. her mothers boyfriend is an alcoholic too. we called the police and they made us give her back to the mother because he only has joint custody. we filed emergency custody and seeked an attorney. does anyone know what happens in an emergency custody hearing and who all has to be present? based on the info i gave you do you think this is enough for her dad to get custody? any advice and help would greatly be appreciated. also, we called CPS and they did nothing.
there is prrof when the mother filed a restraining order she reported abuse and then dropped the restrainig order and moved back in with him.

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Daughter told her father after 2 years why she cut her self.?

  • Posted on November 18, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My daughter finally told her dad why she cut herself 2 years ago.
She said she was doing and selling drugs, meth and cocaine. She also had S with the drug dealer twice. She said she cut herself because she was so angry with herself about it, she claims she does not do it anymore. I’m not going to say anything to her about it, I will wait for her to tell me or let me know when she is ready to talk about it. It’s one of the hardest things ever.

How do I know she has stopped? Is it possible to be on drugs like that and not have any help to come off them?

I probably sound like a horrible mother, but for the life of me, I cannot figure out when and how she did all this, I thought I new where she was all the time. She did online school and then went to a vocational school for 3-4 hours each day during the day, then came home, always on time. Never went out on the weekends, never went to movies with friends, she hates to talk on the phone. This is why I’m so stumped! Could she have really done all this during her 3 hours at the vocational school, sell, do and have sex?

**** Please no – Mean Comments on this, this is serious! ***

daughter is now 18 so it happened about 16 yrs old

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10 year old daughter told some huge stories and now mom and dad are unsure what to do?

  • Posted on November 7, 2010 at 1:23 am

In 4th Grade she told her friends that I got in a drunk driving accident, ( proved I didn’t) and that her Grandma hurts her.
In 5th Grade she said that mom was in Las Vegas looking for someone, dad and sister were dead, neighbor stabbed her with a knife,(all proved false). The question is what do I do. She has always told her father and I the truth and only lies at school. She says that her friends want to play basketball and soccer and she doesn’t want to so to get them to play with her she tells these stories and then they play with her. She started seeing theschool counsler in fourth grade at around the same time this all started and got worse which is why the school finally told me that she was seeing the counsler. No the school thinks she may have emotional or mental problems. What do you think and what should we do? I think the school should have consequences for her also, scine thats where she is doing this, and seems to be getting a payoff for not getting in any troubl
I too knew girls who did similar things in school.
We have disiplined her.
My husband is thinking that more counsling only seems to give her more attention and there fore reinforcing that lies work.

As for getting enough attention most days she and I talk from the time she gets home until the time she goes to bed, sometimes it is only about her being mad that she couldn’t do something. But mostly its about what is going on with her.

I know that she has low self esteem. She is on the short side and really struggles in Math. Apparently people pick on her for these things.

My friend and I were also thinking that she may just need to be in a drama club.
I did just start watching a friends two children but this started last year.

Some of you mentioned I should get her into some activities. She does cheerleading three times a week, she joined her schools community service/student counsel, twice a month, she is also attending a special math class after school three days a week. She wants to join the after school kickball program, and Basketball. She also attends some school skate parties, reading nights, ect. We don’t want our children over scheduled so our general rule is only one sport at a time and then some after school stuff from time to time and of course getting together with friends. We as a family have one night a week called family movie night, we go to the library, about once every other month I take our two girls to the salon to get their hair cut or we go shopping at the mall and have a real girls time out. We play outside with them all the time, we try to do at least one special a month like go to the circus.

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My wife told me on our 6 yr anniversary she had sex with a male friend who’s also married?

  • Posted on October 2, 2010 at 1:23 pm

they are her friends carol and J , from her job she got in 1996 in florida . We broke up girl friend boy friend that same year about and she moved to florida from New Jersey with a new boy friend andru. they were engaged 6 years but all they time she was friends with carol and J. Then in 2001 she meet me at my house in N.J. because she broke up with andru because he crashed her car in a dwi. We phone and dated when she could come to N.J. , In 2003 i moved to florida and 2004 we married . I hate carol and J because they are drug users and sex swingers and carol also has a 21 year old daughter form another guy who’s in jail for murder the daughter is crazy and is goth and emo and cuts her self with razors plus detention school IE messed up . I told my wife not to see them anymore because of their life style . She got made at me and was very resentful. In 2008 4 years after are marage and still fighting them off. She told me J and her had sex . Should i forgive, devorce, $%^& j , WHAT WOULD YOU DO
I know i have to get checked for aids or other disease other then the fact i have no idea who this guys been F$%kin@
yes she did cheat on carol with j before we was married i only heard of it after we married

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My step daughter is only 14 and told me all the bad things she’s done. Should I tell her father?

  • Posted on September 29, 2010 at 10:21 pm

My step daughter is only 14 and told me she’s already had sex with more than one man (older men) and that she sometimes drinks and smokes weed. I’m only 10 years older than her and she sees me as a good friend and listens to me (most of the time) so I tried to steer her in the right direction without scolding her but I’m concerned she’s going to end up in trouble if I didn’t get through to her. She’s going through some rough times right now with her mother. Her mother and father don’t talk so he doesn’t know what’s going on but she also told me about her mothers recent alcohol addiction, she physically abuses her daughters, and is dating a man who berates her children. Should I tell her father or should I discreetly get her into counseling. I’m afraid if I tell him he’ll yell at her, embarrass her, and make things worse and also that she may not trust me anymore.
to clear up any confusion, I am married to her father and I am her step mother.
live in the now- that’s terrible advice. Yell at her? Tell her I think she’s a liar? If that’s how I handled things I wouldn’t even know what I know now and she’d have 0% chance of getting help because no one would know what she was going through or doing! Just because i’m her step mom doesn’t mean I have to be mean to her. I have way more pull with her as the friendly step mom than the screaming b*tch she doesn’t want to be around. Also, how could she have nothing to gain from counseling? It’s a safe environment where she can work out some of the emotional problems that are actually causing the bad behaviors…

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Our 28 year old daughter recently got married to a guy that has her on Meth and now he has told us he is going

  • Posted on August 30, 2010 at 11:20 pm

to move our daughter and we will never be able to see her,and we wasn’t even invited to our daughter’s wedding. His whole family is protecting him and keeping us away from her,we can’t call,write or see her if we try they will call the police and try to get a restraining order on us, Help what can we do.

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Should I have been told by ER staff that my 14 yr old tested positive?

  • Posted on August 22, 2010 at 1:23 pm

My daughter was hospitalized for depression/anxiety. This is her 4th hospitalization in less than 1 year. She has never experimented with street drugs, but of course has been routinely tested many times. When she’s stable, she is an active participant in her care and wants to get better. I am the mom of 4 and she is not the oldest. We are a close family and I’m an involved parent.
Over the weekend, she was not acting normally. She was under her doctor’s care and I was keeping her at home, while adjusting her anti-anxiety medication. The only outside person she saw over the weekend was her 14 yr old best friend. She had extreme mood swings for 3 days and became suicidal yesterday. I rushed her to the ER. She had been seen in ER Sunday night and by her doctor yesterday morning. We all assumed she had a rare adverse reaction to klonopin. It did not explain why she acted very up, stayed up all night Saturday, the mood swings were like watching someone who was bipolar. She is not bipolar. She was hearing voices on Sunday. Nothing made sense. Kind of, but looking back now (knowing what I know), there were pieces of the puzzle missing and no one questioned.
While waiting to transfer her to the admitting hospital, the ER ran routine drug screen, as expected. They generally say “everything is negative”. Well, they didn’t say anything about results. They did grill me for answers to generalized questions regarding sleep, mood, diet, etc…
I accidentally saw her lab results (which are usually in a sealed envelope – but this time it was not.) while looking for directions the ER usually sends with me.
It showed all results were negative, except 1 uncommon street drug. I started thinking the only person, outside of family who saw her over those days, was her best friend. I had no idea either girl was experimenting with something so serious, or that they had access.
I am pretty upset I wasn’t informed. How can I help her in the future if I’m kept in the dark? This drug could have EASILY killed her – especially with combination of the medications she already takes. It did make her suicidal. The other girl’s parents need to be notified as well. You can bet money I’ll be calling them. What was my daughter influenced to take? ECSTASY!
HELP!!! What would you do? Help me think!
Was the hospital required by law to inform me???
Thanks for the “THEY TRY STUFF” – so helpful.
This was the first time she ever tried anything. She’s regularly drug tested routinely, because of her illness. She had blood tests last week – clean.
It’s extremely scary that privacy laws can also prevent me from helping her.
Thank God I know and now her counselors will be working with her specifically on this.
yes, I know it can be indicative of other drugs. Knowing what those are – that’s not what she took. She took the street drug. I know who gave it to her and who influenced her.

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my daughter is seventeen and her friend told me that she a prostitute and my daugher didn’t deny it, so ?

  • Posted on August 1, 2010 at 1:23 pm

what should i do and she using marijuana and she’s using Ecstasy pills also, so what should i do, should i put her in rehab or what?

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How would you react if your well behaved 17 year old daughter told you she is a COCAINE addict?

  • Posted on July 30, 2010 at 1:24 pm

What would you do about it?
I’m not a parent, I’m the daughter… I want to tell my parents and get help, but I’m scared to death to do that… I only started doing it a couple months ago but I’m so addicted and I want to quit…

Does anyone have advice on how to tell them?

(and by well behaved, I mean I’m home by curfew, I’m polite, I dont drink, I do fairly well in school, etc)

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