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Should I force my daughter to undergo intensive drug therapy?

  • Posted on August 13, 2010 at 7:26 pm

My daughter recently turned 16 years old. She is a wonderful child for the most part, extremely intelligent, friendly, usually polite, and gets mostly A’s in her A.P. classes. She is also a marijuana user as well as having tried things like cocaine and ecstasy several times(although I know for sure she hasn’t used them more than that, she mainly uses marijuana) , and has gotten into some trouble in the past year. She was arrested 6 months ago for marijuana and paraphernalia, but she went through a diversion program and that is pretty much off the record.
My husband and I forced her to see a counselor against her will after that incident, and again after she was sexually assaulted several months later. Both times she was very resistant and rude to the counselors. Several weeks ago she was nearly arrested for stealing liquor at Albertsons, but she was lucky and they didn’t press charges. An officer was sent to our house to put a scare into her, and she ran off barefoot as soon as she saw him. She was gone for nearly ten hours, until after 11:00 at night, and we really thought she was dead during this time. It turned out that she had been hiding in recycling bins and the desert barefoot all day, and came back with blistered feet (We live in a very hot environment, it got up to the 100′s that day)
A few days ago we forced her to see another counselor, who she was at first just as resistant to as before, but reluctantly agreed to cooperate after my sister’s prodding. She showed absolutely no desire to quit marijuana, she doesn’t view it as a problem because she functions so well, doing better at school than most non-drug users. I had caught her smoking pot in her room the night before, and confiscated it from her after she somewhat willingly handed it to me. I KNOW this is the first time she has smoked in 2 weeks and she was more or less normal those 2 weeks, and she is definitely not addicted to any substances. She was very cooperative and respectful, but the counselor told us that there wasn’t much he could do and recommended an intensive drug group therapy program, which meets 3 days a week 3 hours each day, and has mandatory drug tests with a person in the room watching.
This morning I took her to have an evaluation with this program’s therapist, and she was just horrible. She barely spoke to me all morning, slammed doors, and was incredibly rude to the therapist, going so far as to walk out of the room after he called her a stubborn Taurus Irish girl. After we left tears were pouring down her cheeks the whole way home, and she threw her book in a tantrum. She previously told us that she would resist this program, and has proved EXTREMELY resistant. I don’t think i’ve seen her more upset about anything in her whole life, she has just been so depressed and upset ever since the counselor recommended this, with very untypical behavior, making threats like that she’s not going to try at school anymore if we make her do this, or that she’s going to start doing even more drugs on purpose. I am not sure if my husband and I are doing the right thing, I want what’s best for her, but she is so incredibly resistant and unhappy, I believe that if I take her she won’t even talk or she will physically resist, should I make her do this or are there any better options out there?

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How can I get my niece to undergo alcohol rehab?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My teenage niece lives with me, since my sister (her mom) travels abroad. My sister doesn’t know about her daughter’s alcohol addiction, and I don’t know how I’m going to tell her. I want my niece to undergo alcohol rehab, but I haven’t tried talking to her yet. What am I to do?

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