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Unhealthy mother/daughter relationship…I am sad….?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 4:33 pm

My mother lives in Pittsburgh, PA and I live in Tennessee.. I moved from PA. to enter rehab in Florida for alcoholism 10 yrs. ago. In these 10 years my mother has not once invited me home for a holiday or visit whatsoever. When I left rehab I had nowhere to go and asked her if I could stay with her for awhile so that I would not be homeless and she responded.” that’s not my responsibility”. I ended up in a halfway house where I was sober for about 6 months. I was raped shortly thereafter. I do continue to drink occasionally, but nothing like I used to. I was really bad there for awhile. About 6 weeks ago, my fiance’ and I had a big arguement and he locked me out of the house. I stared walking and finally found a friend who let me stay at their house overnight. I ended up getting preey messed up and made the mistake of calling my mother while drinking and I guess I “laid it all out on the table” about our failing relationship and I have not heard from her since the beginning of July. She would normally call me about every 2 weeks but not anymore. It seems to me that her love is very CONDITIONAL….I do have some issues but rather than support me and try to be loving, my mother simply alienates herself. I am an only child, and this hurts me very much that my own mother doesn’t make any effort to see me and now doesn’t even call. She and my stepfather are very wealthy and she has stated that their estate will be donated to charity as opposed to leaving me anything. What do you think? This haunts me daily and it’s time I get some answers as to why my mother is the way she is. And am I justified in feeling hurt because of this? Thanks. If you have anymore questions, feel free to email me, I need a friend on this.

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