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Telecommunications Interference/Domestic Violence?

  • Posted on October 16, 2010 at 11:23 pm

OK. I am wording this thoroughly because I did not word it correctly before. My neighbor is my boyfriends cousin. Well, the daughter of my neighbor is. Anyways. She was over to my house earlier in the day because she said her step dad was starting to pick a fight with her mom. We went to the store, and came back. She brought some food for her mom and went back to the house to bring it to her. Her mom was there but her SD wasn’t. Her mom was crying. Her SD went INTOXICATED to his “mommy and daddy’s” to go talk to them. They convinced him to *call the police* because he claims she scratched him down his chest.(He also slammed his fist into her elbow hitting it against the wall leaving a bruise) Their dog had jumped in the middle of them to try and stop the fight. (The dog has some friggin raptor claws).
Once the police arrived. One good cop, mind you I live in a small town and the cops are terrible around here, and one bad cop. They call for backup on a routine for traffic violations…it’s pretty insane. Her SD claims that his girlfriend scratched him down his chest.****He also claims she wouldn’t let him use the phone.**** They have TWO cell phones and a land line. He threw his phone down in a temper tantrum and it wouldn’t work.
So once his MOMMY arrives, she calls the cops from across the street. (mind you he’s around 40 years old… and 6’4″-big enough to handle his own).
So the “bad cop” (he had a very nasty attitude against BF’s cousins mom, even though she was crying and upset), she states to him that the dog scratched him trying to break up the fight. The officer snottily says “Those AREN’T scratches from a dog” with a serious quite aggravated facial expression. WHO IS HE to say they were dog or human scratches? Is he a doctor? Is he a criminal investigator? Not in my small town he sure isn’t! But anyways. The other cop was very respectful and sympathetic and nice. I don’t believe that personal opinions need to play a roll in officers judgement. But I’m blabbing. Anyways she goes to jail for DV and “TELECOMMUNICATIONS INTERFERENCE” (not allowed to use the phone) I honestly cannot believe this. He’s being rediculous. But in our state apparently this is considered a felony. And I know I shouldn’t be involved, but I had no choice, the daughter came crying to me, and the mom came to my house as well. But I want to know if anyone has ever heard of this law? It sounds rediculous to me, especially when they have three phones total! As well as neighbors all around where he could call from. HELP?!

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Question regarding domestic violence and meth use?

  • Posted on September 22, 2010 at 11:20 pm

My sister’s boyfriend was arrested Thursday night and charged with 3rd degree domestic violence (for hitting her), child abuse (because her daughter witnessed the incident) and assault. He is up for a bail hearing on Wednesday (because of the holiday) and I would like to know if there is a way we, as my sister’s family, could get him to remain in jail until his court date in August because he is a meth addict, a danger to my sister and her daughter. My sister doesn’t want him to stay in jail and wants to get the restraining order lifted so this guy can come back home to her, she doesn’t believe he is a threat but acknowledges he is in meth and pot. Can I get a lawyer or should I contact the arresting officier and try to see how it would be possible for this guy to be kept in jail (or have a $10,000 or so bond that no one could afford to bail him out) or would anything I even do help?

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A question about domestic violence protection orders…?

  • Posted on August 24, 2010 at 6:22 am

I put this in parenting simply because its got to do with my daughter’s father, and its the parenting issue that has caused the problem. My daughter’s father is a nut. Most of you have probably read previous questions or answers I have made regarding him. Well, I did something dumb. I allowed him to see my daughter (after 7 months of him not showing up) because I felt like it was the right thing to do. I felt I should give him one last chance after so long to see if he had changed. At first it seemed he had changed. He has been claiming that he found God and such, and at first I believed it. He went days without cussing, he prayed before meals, and he was just as nice as could be. He came over here (his mom brought him because he has no license due to DWI) and my daughter had no idea who he was. Shortly after though, she warmed up to him and his mother. His mother left, and it was just us 3. He offered to buy us dinner, so we went out. Everything was more than perfect, and I was beginning to wonder if I had made a mistake by keeping him away. (Of course, all of the horrible things he has done slipped my mind) We came back, gave her a bath, and put her to bed. We then sat down to talk. He started off on his “I wanna be a family” deal, and I was quick to tell him that we don’t need him, and that if he was looking for me to beg him to take me back he wasn’t going to get it. He kept on about it, and so forth. I did cry a little, only because the whole situation is still very fresh and it bothers me how things have been. Well, he left and I assumed everything was ok with us. Well I was apparently wrong. He went back to his girlfriend (whom he sat here and told me he hated and he wanted to leave her) and told her that I had spent the whole night begging him to take me back. That I cried my eyes out because he told me that he didn’t want me, he wanted her. (Funny, since I only shed a few tears, and by no means “cried my eyes out”.) Once I heard this, I immediately told the girl that this was BS, and that he was trying to cheat on her again. (This isn’t the first time he has pulled this stunt). She said that his mother told him that I was a liar, and that all I was doing was trying to break them up, that she SAW and HEARD everything and that he wasn’t lying. Also funny, because she wasn’t even HERE. They are both telling the girl that she never left us alone. Now he is texting me saying that I’m a drama queen, and that I ruined his life! Again threatening that this girl will be my daughter’s stepmother and blah blah blah. Acting like a little child. The most important thing is, that all this is really disrupting my daily life. It keeps me on edge, and keeps my nerves torn up. Its basically made me a nervous wreck.

My question is, could this emotional abuse be enough to get a protective order against him?

P.S- I have learned my lesson this time, and do not plan on every letting him see my daughter again, unless there is an officer at my door serving papers.
Also, if it does, would this mean that he would get rights to her? I mean, would us being in a court room together and admitting he is her father cause the judge to make a child support order and visitation, against my will?
I have texts from him showing that he is crazy (threats to kill himself and other things) and also on an old phone I have messages where he threatens to harm me. The screen is broken, but I think there may be a way for the police to get information off of it, I’m not sure.

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My daughter’s bipolar, she’s been in jail for violence, does drugs and is pregnant! She’s 24. Wt can I do?

  • Posted on August 17, 2010 at 7:24 am

She was diagnosed bipoliar when she was 18 years old. Has been on medication which controlled her violent outbursts, but she started using drugs. (Ecstasy and pot) This made her very aggressive and she has attacked our family on several occassions. We are all afraid of her and can not have her in our homes if she is not on her meds.
She has already lost custody of her first child who is 3 years old, but she has refused to be consistenet in taking her medicine so she is not allowed unsupervised visits. She has been in jail twice for assault on family memebers and put in the hospital because of a suicide attempt. She is delusional when thinking about the baby she is carrying because she does not have a place to live, and is not with the baby’s dad.
I don’t know what I can I do to help my child. Please help me!

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U.s. is not Dealing With Mexican Violence Against Americans

  • Posted on January 4, 2010 at 8:28 pm

BY MICHAEL WEBSTER: Syndicated Investigative Reporter: Mon Jan 12, 2009 at 12:01 AM PST

Homeland Security Secretary Michael Chertoff said this week if Mexico’s vicious drug war ever spills into the United States they have several response plans, one of which calls for a military surge along the U.S.-Mexico border.

Secretary Chertoff there have already been many so called “spill over’s” into the U.S. with little or no response from the Bush administration. Many believe it is do to the cozy relationship between the two governments.

From Brownsville Texas to San Diego California Mexican cities bordering American cities are where most Americans are being killed by assassinations and executions. But other Americans are being killed by the long arm of the Mexican drug cartels which reach deep into America. There are accounts of Mexican drug cartel surrogate terrorist’s invading the U.S. by crossing the porous international border and killing Americans in Dallas Texas, Atlanta Geo, New York City, Phoenix Ariz, Las Vegas Nevada, and is believed to have reached Shelby County Alabama where five people were found murdered gangland style by Mexican nationals.

Many Americans were kidnapped in the U.S. and taken to Mexico where they were murdered. Still other Americans were abducted and slain in Mexico while visiting, others where shot gangland style in country. Dozens of U.S. citizens have been kidnapped, or held hostage, or killed by their captors in Mexico and many cases remain unsolved. Moreover, new cases of disappearances and kidnap-for-ransom and Americans being killed continue to be reported. On top of that there have been dozens of incursions by the Mexican military into the states. Also all along our borders with Mexico American authorities have been attacked by the Mexican military and by those believed to be well trained Mexican drug cartel surrogate terrorist using military style Humvee’s, rocket lounges, assault rifles, grenades, 50 cal mounted weapons and other hard core military weaponry. To date there is no evidence that the U.S. Government has done anything to curtail these attacks. 

Carey Marcella McClintock was threatening to testify against a prominent and well known El Paso criminal defense lawyer who has represented Mexican and American drug traffickers and that he himself was beholding to the drug cartels and their gang members.

Carey’s father has been independently investigating his daughter’s killing and now believes that Carey was taken from a Texas town near Dallas to Juarez Mexico across the border from El Paso Texas on a ruse, and was brutally murdered on August 31, 2008 in Juarez so she could not testify.  She was found in an abandoned house in the desert minutes outside of the city.  She had been beaten and stabbed multiple times. Carey’s father believes that his daughter was about to testify against the attorney and others in a federal and on going investigation involving the Mexican drug cartel and there hired assailants the El Paso’s Barrio Azteca Gang  One Of The Most Dangerous In Nation. “I believe she was coerced into going to El Paso by the attorney and the attorney’s girl friend where she was provided transportation and was put up in a hotel in Juarez and all paid for by the same attorney. Her family fears that what really happened to Carey has happened to others and that her murder and others like hers will never see the light of day and will never be solved by the corrupt Mexican authorities. He also says the American authorities refuse to investigate because they claim the crime was in Mexico. The El Paso Police Dept has been informed as to the details surrounding the case where the local attorney illegally transported and harbored a known fugitive, yet no investigation is underway. The father also thinks the same attorney had something to do with his daughter’s murder.

In spite of all that, Chertoff claims he has instructed the 22 federal agencies that fall under his preview to develop border-violence response plans because the drug war in Mexico appears to be escalating, not ending. So far, more than 5,300 people have been killed across Mexico as the result of the on going civil war between the Mexican Government and the powerful Mexican drug cartels.

“We completed a contingency plan for border violence, so if we did get a significant spillover, we have a surge if I may use that word — capability to bring in not only our own assets but even to work with” the Defense Department, Chertoff told the New York Times.
He did not give details on how, when or where the military might be used.

According to the El Paso Times Jason Ciliberti, a spokesman for U.S. Customs and Border Protection, which is one of the federal agencies under the Homeland Security department, confirmed the contingency plans. He said federal agencies have had border-violence response plans for several months now.
“We need them so customs and Border Patrol can continue daily operations,” Ciliberti said from his Washington, D.C., office. “The other reason the plans exist is because these agencies, which are all a part of Homeland Security, must provide U.S. citizens with a safe place to live. If the violence threatens the daily safety and daily routine of U.S. citizens, Homeland Security must be ready.”

Many Americans believe that the crimes against Americans such as kidnappings and murders by invading forces like the cartels are being ignored by the American government and many local law enforcement officials are turning a blind eye on the violence accruing on American soil or just are not properly informed.

An example of this attitude or lack of knowledge is found in a recent statement by the acting El Paso Police Chief Greg Allen where he said that he did not think a military buildup would ever be needed. He went on to say “It would have to be an end-of-the-world type situation before the military is brought in. “We all pretty much feel like the violence is going to be contained in Mexico. Our concern is minimal.”

These statements are coming from our so called first line defense law enforcement officials along our border with Mexico. Luna County (N.M.) Sheriff Raymond Cobos, whose territory encompasses Deming and the Columbus port of entry a section known for drug and human smuggling, said the drug cartels are very much aware of the firepower U.S. law enforcement agencies and the military have.

“I think they look across the border and see a lot of U.S. law enforcement ready to respond,” Cobos said. “Since the violence started, we have treated every incident as a potential border violence incident. But so far, nothing has spilled over.”Cobos told the media recently.

Ciliberti said the contingency plans vary, but for the most part, if the violence in Mexico spills into the U.S., the first Homeland Security plan calls for increasing the number of Border Patrol agents in the region. Chertoff said that nationally, an additional 19,000 agents will be deployed this year.

The Homeland Security plan also calls for the partnering of federal agents with local and state police officers to help patrol any areas where border violence is occurring.

“As a last resort, it would include the military,” Ciliberti said.

The EL Paso Times reports that Paul Boyce, a spokesman with U.S. Army public affairs office in the Pentagon, said all of the U.S. armed forces, including the Army are a part of U.S. emergency contingency plans. He said the military is ready to help any city, state or region in any type of emergency.

“For security reasons, we do not get into the details or say what our role would be,” Boyce said.

Cobos said that if the violence did reach across the border, local law enforcement agencies up and down the border would be able to respond appropriately.

“But if for some reason that didn’t work,” he said, “then we would call on Chertoff’s contingency plans.”

In a recent article the times reported that U.S. Rep. Silvestre Reyes, D-Texas, said the fact that the federal government has a contingency plan for border violence should be put in perspective. The federal government historically has had plans for any type of national emergency.

“As the violence in Mexico escalated last year, the Department of Homeland Security updated these plans to ensure that our federal law enforcement agencies are adequately prepared to meet any type of emergency that could arise should the violence in Mexico threaten the security of the United States,” Reyes said.

“The use of military forces would be a last resort because our federal law enforcement agencies are fully prepared to respond to most emergency scenarios, that is the whole purpose behind these contingency plans.”

Still, El Paso County Commissioner Dan Haggerty said the news that the U.S. has various levels of contingency plans to deal with the violence should be comforting to most El Pasoans.

“I think it is going to get worse in Mexico, and we as U.S. citizens need to be assured that Homeland Security or someone is going to protect us,” he said. “We must accept that we live in a city that has been labeled as a major drug-smuggling corridor and a place for illegal immigration.

“With that type of illegal activity comes the possibility that our safety is at risk.”

Estimates indicated in Iraq during the height of that bloody war there were never more than 10,000 hard core Al-Qaeda fighters in country. It is estimated that in the Americas there are already thousands of Al-Qaeda, and other Muslim extremist groups operating. In Mexico it is estimated that there could be tens of thousands of Mexican drug cartel members, enforcement gangs and other sympathizers. Iraq is a country of only 25 million people, Mexico is a country of well over 100 million people and it is in our back yard. It has taken over 350,000 American troops and thousands of troops of our allies and well over a trillion American dollars to combat and contain Iraq’s civil war. More people were killed violently in Mexico last year than in Iraq and Afghanistan combined. It is time that America wakes up and faces the fact that a major civil war is taking place in Mexico and it is spilling over into the streets of America and will likely get much worse long before it gets better and is likely to kill even more Americans.

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Editors Note:

 

Michael Webster’s Syndicated Investigative Reports are read worldwide, in 100 or more U.S. outlets and in at least 136 countries and territories. He has published articles for Maxims News, which is associated with MediaChannel.org and Globalvision News Network, global news and media information services with more than 350 news affiliates in 135 countries. Many of Mr. Webster’s articles are printed in six working languages: English, French, Arabic, Chinese, Russian and Spanish. With ten more languages planed in the near future.

Mr. Webster is America’s leading authority on Venture Capital/Equity Funding. A trustee on some of the nations largest trade Union funds. A noted Author, Lecturer, Educator, Emergency Manager, Counter-Terrorist, War on Drugs and War on Terrorist Specialist, Business Consultant, Newspaper Publisher. Radio News caster. Labor Law generalist, Teamster Union Business Agent, General Organizer, Union Rank and File Member Grievances Representative, NLRB Union Representative, Union Contract Negotiator, Workers Compensation Appeals Board Hearing Representative. Mr. Webster publishes the on-line newspaper the Laguna Journal and does investigative reports for print, electronic and on-line News Agencies.

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I’ll Do It Later But Later Never Comes

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

Has there ever been a time when you didn’t procrastinate? Probably not, if you’re really honest with yourself. For the most part, procrastination is something we all live with and it typically doesn’t seem to interfere too much with our daily lives.

But what about the times we procrastinate to such a degree that we become immobilized? Perhaps you may recall Shakespeare’s Hamlet who, when he discovered that his uncle had murdered his father, wanted revenge. Unresponsive to his initial best instinct, he hesitates. Tormented with doubt, rationalizations, love and hate for his mother (who marries his uncle), and a myriad of other excuses, he hesitates. Or does he? Is he biding his time, waiting for the right moment, or merely procrastinating? For Hamlet, this wasn’t a moral reason. Then why did he hesitate? Or did he? Let’s look at the possibilities, while apparently enduring his torment.

1. I must find the opportune time.
2. How would it affect my mother? (Those of you familiar with Freud’s Oedipal complex theory might insist: Of course, it would be logical!)
3. How would others in the royal court respond?
4. The timing must be right.
5. I abhor violence. (highly unlikely)
6. How do I make it look like an accident?

One other possibility would need to be examined. What if Hamlet never really hesitated? Perhaps he was merely contemplating various ways he could carry out the act. (But then the play would be too short). The question remains: Did he procrastinate at all?

You’re probably wondering why I used such an extreme example to illustrate an issue with which most of us have had to cope at various time in our lives. In my work with individuals however,
I’ve used the Hamlet example to help defuse the intensity of their own struggles with procrastination be they minor or major. While not always successful in their attempts, their willingness to confront the matter has often led to at least modest changes in their lives.

One of the more memorable participants in an ongoing “ Decisions Decisions” workshop that I conducted a short while ago was somewhat skeptical, at first, about her participation. Having had five years of psychoanalysis for symptoms of depression, anxiety, and low self esteem, which had some positive resolution, Rita nevertheless felt that her propensity towards procrastination had not been sufficiently addressed. Attractive, physically healthy and active for a woman of sixty years, she took an early retirement from a Federal government position with the intention of traveling and pursuing her interest in watercolors. Divorced at age fifty, following fifteen years of marriage, Rita had had several relationships which she considered superficial. During the course of the workshops, she was helped to realize by other group members that her procrastination regarding travel and painting was related to strongly felt financial obligations towards her twenty-five year old single son and fear of traveling. Despite her years in psychoanalysis, she continued to believe that a child’s needs were more important than the parent’s and felt guilty about spending “all that money on myself” for travel throughout the US, China and Europe.

The group was asked to answer several questions in an exercise entitled: What’s Hidden Behind Procrastination?

1. What are my excuses for not acting on my behalf?
2. What am I afraid of?
3. Do I feel I don’t deserve what life has to offer me?
4. Am I afraid of change?
5. Do I feel that things I wish to do take too much effort?
6. Do I feel guilty and selfish for wanting things for myself?
7. Do I have difficulty letting go of things?
8. What if, what I want doesn’t turn out the way I expected?

You can imagine the vitality the group took on in attempting to address these questions for themselves. Most interesting, however, was the group’s focus on Rita’s dilemma and her defensive attitude expressed in anger at first, but then changing, as the meetings progressed. Feeling “ganged up on” at times, Rita soon began to realize how she had been denying her very powerful need to make the most out of her life.

If you’re curious about whatever happened to Rita, a year later, following the end of the workshop months before, I was pleased to hear from another group member with whom Rita had become friends, that she had had received a postcard from her somewhere in China.

I have a suggestion for those of you struggling with procrastination over minor or major matters. Why not take each of the questions I presented above, and write down a few responses to all, or just a few of them. Don’t feel constrained. You may even devote a page or two for each of your responses. You’ll be amazed at your revelations.

Dr. Rollin is also the author of The Psychology of Communication Disorders in Individuals and Their families as well as Counseling Individuals with Communications Disorders. He has an active therapy practice in Sacramento, California and continues to offer his popular decision-making workshops. Visit his website at http://decisiondr.com.

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