So I would like some opinions, Male and Female please….My ex (the father of my child) asked this question on yahoo answers, yet he forgot to add certain details. So I’m re-posting his question, and then I will add what he left out.
Him:
Me and My Ex live together still, and are trying to get along for the sake of our daughter. There are no custody or visitation guidelines set in place because we live together and we haven’t even thought about something like that. However, on the weekends she works and I watch my daughter. The last couple of weekend I have wanted to go with my daughter down to my moms which is about 45 Min’s away from where we live. She has repeatedly told me no, and I feel that it is not entirely her decision to make. On the other hand, she can up and leave to her mom’s house which is also about 45Min’s away in the county over, without asking, and stay over there for sometimes, days at a time. Mind you not even so much as a courtesy heads up, she is young in mind and very immature. So my question is really, can I take my daughter to my mom’s without bringing on any lawful issues? Basically, If I wanted to leave on a Friday Morning and return on a Saturday afternoon/evening can she stop me? And if so, how can I make it so that she can’t decipher those types of decisions.
Thanks!
HERE’S HIS LINK: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110208165407AA4KdSw&pa=FZB6NXXtFWMW0cLWweMd88dMBWOug4FEQZXwhuu4nPWh9.V1.Co-&paid=add_watch
My turn, Here is what he left out:
He forgot to mention is his question that, He has been an alcoholic since he was 15 or 16, that he has bad anger issues (ex: Snapping my cell phone in half cause I threatened to call the cops on him) Lying to me about when he’s drunken alcohol, he had his first DUI at age 18, he’s 22 and hasn’t had his license since (nor did he have one to begin with). Within the past year he has driven home drunk several times, and then comes home and lies to me about. He asked me one time if he could take our daughter with him to his moms and I said yes, then later that night he asks me if Im okay with him staying the night at his moms house with our daughter (I have never spent one night away from her, and he had told me that night he would be coming home) I told him Im not comfortable with that, he then tells me that he’s staying anyways, so I tell him no I am not comfortable with that please bring her home, and that if he didn’t want to bring her home I would go down to his moms and pick her up myself, he still refused, so after arguing me crying and then threatening to call the cops on him he finally tells me he’ll come home….So that night he had been drinking beers with his mother (also an alcoholic) and he says he had 1 (which I don’t believe since he’s lied to me about everything since I met him day one, yet I didn’t find out until much much later) and most alcoholic don’t stop at 1 beer. So he still chose to drive home, even after I said I would come get her, and he didn’t want me coming to get her.
Then after that we were supposed to go on vacation with my family, he didn’t ask his boss in time and wasn’t able to go with us, we were gone for 2 weeks, so then when I get back I find out he’s spend almost all of the tax return money (which was supposed to catch us up on our apts rent and our car payment we were behind on) So after arguing he tells me he spend most of it on eating out and he went down to Huntington Beach and went to some bars by himself, his reason why he did this he had a reoccuring dream that I was cheating on him…which I never have even being broken up for the past 5 months I still have not even gone on a date with anyone, kissed anyone, let alone sleep with anyone, where as within the first 3 months of our relationship he cheated on me with his ex (and guess what he was “drunk” and she manipulated him) and then to find out 2 years later when his ex tells me he slept with her in the back of his car (the car my mother bought him) I confront him about it, he lies and said that she was lying (even after I heard him talk with her about it, lying to her saying he was never in a relationship with me at that point) I confront him again and he denies it for another whole year.
He has also done drugs in the past as well, (speed, coke, e, and god only knows what else) and at one point we had roommates who were snorting hydrocodone (I was not aware of this either, til later) and he was buying it off them.
I have only ever tried weed, and if you ask why did I pick someone like this, I didn’t know until much later, and when we started dating I thought the drinking was a teenage phase, and by the time I realized it wasn’t, it was too late (pregnant)
So am I wrong to not let our daughter go with him?
