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i accidentally went to the bathroom on my daughter and im really feeling guilty about it?

  • Posted on April 11, 2011 at 8:17 pm

lil backstory im a single mother and its been a tough life for me, i am a severe alcoholic but im doing my VERY best to clean up for my daughters sake shes the lite of my life but its a constant struggle…

anyway fast forward to now ive been sober for 19 days but last night i really really got upset and one thing led to another i got almost black out drunk by midnight… my daughter was fast asleep so i figured she was safe or so i thought… but before i went 2 bed that night i really had “to go” but i was so messed up i didnt realize i went into my daughters bedroom (its right next to the bathroom, i was really f**d up please try to understand how hard it can be) and i just totally lost control and went to the bathroom (#1 and #2… a lot of both… ;) all over her

god knows how but she slept through it … when i realized what i did i was so ashasmed i almost threw up and i didnt know how to tell her i mean she cant think her mother did this for the rest of her LIFE!!! so i just left it there and the next morning she woke up SCREAMING BLODY MURDER so i ran in and i dont know i couldnt tell her it was me so i just said “uh oh honey u had an accident its okay” shes 9 years old so shes too old for bed wetting but i had no choice but to make her think she did it

she is depressed all day today because she thinks she is a gross monster but what choice do i have if i ttell her it was me wont it be worse

p[lease help i dont know what 2 do ;( :( ;(

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My husband says if I’d have went with him, he wouldn’t have got so drunk…?

  • Posted on March 25, 2011 at 11:24 am

I know I’m now his babysitter, and I have responsibilities at the house (he wanted me to bring our child with us when she needed to do schoolwork). He made his choices, and I made mine. I chose to not go to my family’s get together because of my prior commitments for the past weekend. I suspect there being something mixed in with his drinks or that there was a bad reaction with his medications, he says he drank a lot more than he remembered drinking after calling someone else who was there. I still don’t trust the situation. The guy could have been telling him that he went off alone with someone else or did something else, but my husband told me supposedly what the guy said. If my husband was accurately truthful, then all he did was he went out for a long time on a bad note with me. To me, that is not faithfulness and comittment to the marriage and our family and our plans we had which we ditched. He says he is sorry. He had me worried about him and I thought he could have alcohol poisoning or something else, which is serious, and also especially since I did not know where he was and could not come pick his sorry but up and check on the situation to make sure if a promiscuous woman was taking advantage of him or not or if he was acting wrong otherwise. I don’t think I could have stopped him even if I had been there, or even if I had made ultimatums before he left. He has had another time years ago he left me stranded at a hotel for I don’t know how many hours while he was supposedly test driving the car for problems. He supposedly went to his partying relatives house (in the daytime). But I still have suspicions that something else may have gone on, even if he did go to those particular relatives. I didn’t want him to put me in another situation and worse to involve our daughter with seeing a bunch of drunks or people cursing and stuff…..
My questions are these: Do you think I did anything wrong by not going with him and by not getting myself and our child stuck in this situation with him? Do you think he is right that he would not have gotten so messed up if I had been there with our child? And can you understand (even if you don’t agree) how I see this as being not faithfully committed to the family, even if he was accurately truthful and did not do something sexual with another woman?
Sorry this is so long, but please try to read before answering….

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My sister went behind my back and?

  • Posted on March 25, 2011 at 11:21 am

picked up my 15 year old when I said no. My daughter just had a baby 3 weeks ago and was at her dad’s house visiting they got in a fight, she asked to go to my sister’s I said no way my sister is a heroin addict and possible hooker, and I wanted neither her or my grandson there her father agreed. I called my sister told her not to even think of picking her up and just found out she did anyway. unfortunately my husband is unaware and took our van to get fixed so I told them to bring her home now and that was 2 hours ago should I file charges on my sister I think I should I know I am on my daughter I just think my sister should know I meant what I said. I thought her dad would be able to stop her from taking the baby out at 1a.m. because I would have decked her. Any advice.
I already called the police I have to meet them with my custody papers and she lives pretty far from me.
Her dad’s family told me she was behaving badly and I know how she is when she don’t get her way.

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my mom went to work drunk?

  • Posted on November 18, 2010 at 11:22 pm

My oldest daughter is at my mom’ house right now,she just text’d me and said grandma (mymom) got called in to work. My mom had been drinking all evening from maybe 4pm til 11pm and then went to sleep,so she slept 1 and a half hours then got called in. Iam 250 miles away. I called my daughter right when I got her text and said tell her she better not drive,not to mention go to work drunk and my daughter said she already left. I was asking my daughter if grandma was REALLY drunk, trying to get an idea of how drunk she was , my daughter was like yeah, I guess. Im freaking out,shes driving,she probablly already at work. She works in a casino incase you are wondering
omg, I dont know what to think of this. Iam mad, that my mom hadnt thought about this before she decided to get drunk. She always drinks on her friday,which happens to be friday this time,anyways,she recently took over for her boss that was fired so she knows shes on call. wtf. My daughter that is at the house is 16,she doesnt have a license only a permit still but still,why t f wasnt either of them thinking, my god, Im praying she made it ok. My daughter said she was yelling when she left the house.
what should I do is the question
I just called her cell to see if she made it and shes drunk,whatever it makes me sick. She was at work. damn it,it makes me so angry that she drove drunk, I wish she would have gotten arrested, I should have called 911 but she was gone before my daughter told me,its not far to work. Iam so mad.

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Mother out of rehab after 28 days for Meth on Monday… on Thursday went out drinking!?

  • Posted on November 6, 2010 at 1:20 am

Ok does anyone have any thoughts? [you can read my other questions for info!] Child custody, hearing is this upcoming wednesday (finally after she got out of rehab)! apparently she just dont really care.. was supposed to visit daughter at dance for parent observation week, but told her daughter she had to go get her “bowl on.. she hadnt bowled in so long”… left daughter visibly upset, but she must hear these things so often that she clung to her dad that whole night..

Can you make a recovery work if you are drinking??! 3 days after rehab especially????? She is in denial that she was/is an alcoholic and obviously doesnt think that it has any effect on her meth addiction.

Oh and we have counseling starting on Monday for daughter… one step closer to the recovery process of a 10 year old! Shes been through too much .. :-(

We have a miracle! :::rolls eyes:::
Our lawyer ordered Private investigator after we found out her intentions. got pictures and have report of her drinking.

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my 12 year old daughter went to live with her father?

  • Posted on October 11, 2010 at 10:18 am

Hi, I found out that my 12 year old daughter kissed a 12 year old boy, I was upset when she confesed me, I set rules then she decided to go and live with her father, he is not a nice man or father, on top of that he is an alcoholic. She left three days ago and missed her dearly, my heart breakes when I look at her pictures in the house. Should I tell her to come back home or let her find out what kind of man he is. I realy want on honest asnwer from a heart broken mother. Thanks and I appriciate your answers.

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my x-partner left my 2yr old daughter alone @ home with his 13yr old daughter.he went out.what shud i do?

  • Posted on October 4, 2010 at 3:22 am

he went out & left her during the time he has contact with our daughter. am i over-reacting? i have already asked him not to do it but he continues. there was a no-contact order issued to him because he wouldnt go to court to sort out access. i also caught him drinking and then driving our daughter home in car. how many chances do i give him?

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What can I do to keep my daughter away from her dad? CPS went in on June 6, 2005 and removed my daughter from?

  • Posted on September 14, 2010 at 8:20 am

her fathers house due to neglect and drugs. He and his wife tested possitive for meth and admitted to cooking it in the house with my daughter home!! His wife was 5mths pregnant at the time!!! I went to court and got new custody papers, the papers state that untill CPS gives me, (it specifically states my name) written notice her father may only have supervised visation. Well on October 11, 2005 CPS sent me a letter stating that due to their non-corroperation CPS was closing the case and that her father should not ever recieve unsupervised visitation. Last year he picked her up from school, (they have copies of all the paper work!!) the police went and got her. All summer long he has tried to go places where she was and take her. The police were called everytime and he was unsuccesful. Well yesterday he picked her up from school again, the police in his town have let him keep her this time because they say the CPS case is closed. I feel hopeless, what do I do? I can’t pay for a lawyer

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Can I find out how someones court date went in Morrow county Oh, or if they are in jail?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 11:24 pm

My ex wife has a court date on 6/4 for probation violation for a o v i .She has been drinking worse than when she was caught and has stayed with six different people since it happend she does not see the kids or call them .When she found out that she had a court date she went into rehab to dry up for court. This is her fourth time in rehab in twelve months ,every time she gets in trouble she goes in to look like she is trying to sober up but it is all a show . She recieved her o v i in Morrow county and lives in Cuyahoga. She has never been tested for alcohol the year that she has been on on probation and has a year left . Does anyone know what i can do to get the court to start testing her ? She has no fear of getting caught . When she was caught she had my daughter and niece in her van and blew a 3.1but got off on the child endangering charge. I would like to see her get help so my children can have a relationship with her again even if it means her going to jail to dry up.

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My ex. 52 fem. Alcoholic, went in patient. Sober 3yrs. knows the drill…?

  • Posted on August 7, 2010 at 4:32 pm

Relapsed, and now thinks she can control it and have a drink once in a while. have allready started to see the insanity start where it left off. She is also a super enabler/ Co. trying to fix our daughters alcoholism. Also takes care of a sister who refuses to quit. Obviously the enviroment she provides does nothing for her own recovery. She has the usual remorse and guilt. I know something of the disease being in recovery 16yrs. I know I cant fix her. What can I possibly suggest to her she doesnt already know…she think disipline and logic will enable her to control it..we all know thats not the case. 12 step and meetings were not her thing for the 3yrs she was clean. Any suggestions?? We were married 18yrs. And still very close.

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