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10 pts. If I was your daughter would you ever forgive me for my mistake?

  • Posted on May 12, 2011 at 3:23 am

(Sorry its so long but I made the biggest mistake in my life)

I’m Angela and I’m 16 years old and my sister is Heather and she’s 15. Last Friday night I went to a house party at my best friend’s house and I invited my sister along. She’s had never been to a party and I go every week, she’s the good daughter in the family.

I told our dad we were going out to the movies with my friends and sleeping over at my friends house for the weekend. He didn’t want to but finally agreed because my sister was coming with me. He dropped us off at the theater and my boyfriend picked us up and drove us to the party.
There was alcohol and drugs at the party and my sister promised not to drink or do drugs, she knows me and my bf drink alcohol and smoke weed. There was over 80 people at the party, most of them were from our high school. Heather stuck with me and my boyfriend most of the night but then my bf wanted to go to the motel cause the house was too crowded and I told my sister I was leaving, she BEGGED me not to leave but I told her it would just be for an hour and that I’ll be back.
I left her alone just to go have sex with my bf. We left to a motel and were gone for more than two hours and when we got back to the party my friend said my sister had gotten drunk and left with some man.

I was drunk and high and couldn’t think straight, my bf drove me back home and I told my dad EVERYTHING that happened and he was really pissed off. He kicked my bf out of the house and after making a call to the police station my dad pulled me out of the house and into the car with him.
We drove to the same motel me and my bf were in earlier and he told me to wait in the car, after talking with a cop who was outside of the motel he went over to a room with the cop. Minutes later he walked out with my sister in his arms, she was unconscious, she only had bed sheets wrapped around her.
The cops arrested a 35 year old man who admitted to say he slipped a roofie (the “date rape drug”) in her drink and brought her to the motel and raped her. No one knew what the man was doing at the party, no one knew him. Later the police found out he had raped 3 other girls before.
I know it was my fault for leaving her alone when she wanted me to stay. My dad told me yesterday morning I was going back to juvie. I’ve been in juvie three times already, once for drugs, once for stealing a car and once for running away with my bf.
My sister was in the hospital all day saturday and brought back home sunday. I wanted to talk to her and apologize but she didn’t want to see me, my dad didn’t let me get close to her.

She HAS to know I’m sorry for being such a bad sister. She was a virgin and I caused for her to be raped for being selfish. I can’t eat, sleep or stop crying, I need to talk to her before I’m put I’m juvie on friday. My probation officer said I’ll have to stay in juvie for TWO YEARS for breaking my probation by doing drugs.
I know that’s where I belong, I’m a bad person and need to stay away from my sister to keep her safe with my dad. Our mom works ALL the time and we hardly ever see her, maybe once every two weeks, my mom came back and she told me she wished I was never born because I’m always causing trouble. I know she’s right.
Everything would be better without me here. I feel like if I’m dying inside, I have so much pain in me and no one in my family to comfort me, my dad doesn’t want to talk to me either. I hate myself for having this happen to her. My bf and friends try to comfort me but its not helping at all.

How can I apologize to my family, what can I say?

Will they ever forgive me?

Any advice???

I made all my mistakes for being in a gang, there is no way out, my bf is the gang leader and we love each other. I don’t think I can live with myself if they never want to see me again, I need help knowing what to do. My bf wants me to run away to Mexico with him, he doesn’t want me to be in juvie for two years, we love each other so much and I don’t know if I should go, if I go I won’t be able to come back and see them ever again.

I posted this question yesterday also, I don’t know what I’m exactly looking for, I know there is nothing that will change what happened.

Plz if you are parents, what would you do if I was your daughter???

Plz help!
The reason why I was writing a story is because I was writing about what I was going through! My mom was my child psychologist and she tried to help me out but it didn’t work, I was in too deep in the gang to get out.
I’m a good student in school, I just can’t deal with life outside, my english teacher is the only adult who tries to help me, he understands me but I haven’t been able to tell him about what happened, I haven’t been to school.

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Would you forgive your sister for this?

  • Posted on May 10, 2011 at 11:20 pm

My little sisters house burned, and so I let her and her daughter stay with me. Was planning to help her get back on her feet. Well, I came home and she was high on meth, and I realized she’d stolen some of my jewelry, including a $5000 engagement ring given to me by my deceased husband. She is in jail now, and I have her daughter. My dad wants me to forgive her and drop the charges. I think she should have to suffer the consequences. What do you think?
I had such a hard time picking a best answer, all of you were so kind. I did drop the charges, I feel like losing her daughter will be punishment enough for her. She will be going to live with our Dad, and hopefully he can help her get straightened out. My niece will be living with me until she can prove to DFCS that she’s clean. Thanks everybody!

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My mother is driving me nuts!!! How would you handle this?

  • Posted on May 3, 2011 at 9:23 pm

Deep breath, count to ten Katie.
God she drives me mad!!! My mum (I am 32 and married with 3 children & work part time just so you know) likes a drink shall we say.
We don’t live near each other (thankfully) and this week she has ahad a week off work, does she come to see me and the girls? No she sits in doors drinking. I don’t take the children to her house because she insists on smoking in the very small house (and drinking) and i don’t want the girls breathing in the smoke and it makes all of our clothes & hair smell. Anyway’s my mum likes taking my oldest who is 6 to the ttheatre to see various musicals – that is the only time she does anything for the children or even sees my daughter.
Now, she rang during the week (she had been drinking) and was going on about wether Abbi would want to go & see joseph or the sound of music I said i would ask her later as it was tea time. Mum rang again last night but whilst we were talking my daughter had a bit of a tantrum over something & spoke to me quite abruptly i dealt with her whilst mum was still on the phone listening but once i had finished sorting out my daughter my mum went into one “thats it i’m not taking her anywhere, she can’t talk to you like that” etc etc so i said “ok don’t then” and told her i had to go. She rang again yesterday but i was to busy to talk on the phone & forgot to call her back.
She just called me. MUM: “you didn’t call me back about the tickets”
ME: “what tickets, you said you weren’t going” MUM: “no I didn’t”
She had no memory of it & then after i repeated the conversation she said that she was joking well she was not & obviously didn’t remember.
So I told her not to book any tickets (when i spoke to my daughter she said she didn’t want to go but so far I haven’t found oout why) I told her lets get xmas out of the way before we start booking theatre tickets for next year. And she got all moody & silent on me & said “well fine then hope you have a nice day goodbye” and off she went (she has been drinking)
What do I do?
P.s thanks for letting me rant I can’t speak to anybody else about her. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but she is driving me mad.

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what would you do(guys advice)?

  • Posted on April 21, 2011 at 11:21 pm

I’ve been married for two years. I got married bc I decided I needed to be the best father I can be for my daughter who is now 3. My wife was hanging out with another man at work and the gym about a year ago and wanted to leave me. I said OK bye and she came back and begged me to stay and I gave in. She said they never kissed or had relations. She then set out on a mission to get pregnant again and we had another child who is 2 months now. I am very unhappy in my home but my children are very important to me, the reason I married is bc we broke up before and I couldn’t see my children bc she told the court i was a heroin addict, a totally false accusation and called the cops and said i beat her. I don’t know what to do bc I love my children and i feel like as long as i’m here i protect them from her and her families craziness, but i also would like to have a life i enjoy. any advice would be helpful.

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Would you move back home (Serious question)?

  • Posted on April 17, 2011 at 9:23 am

This is actually a serious question, so please no joking answers. I’m guessing some of y’all know me by now (or at least recognize me). 18 have a month old daughter. I currently have my own apartment, but I don’t think I can stay here. It’s the apartment my boyfriend had, & I moved in in at the beginning of August. He died in a drunk-driving “accident” 2 weeks latter (how it’s an accident I don’t know. That man chose to drive drunk, killing my BF He never got to see Jane. accident my a**).
If I moved back home it would make things a lot easier. I could start saving more money, & when I go back to work next month my parents could watch Jane. I also wouldn’t be so lonely. I hate being in this apartment, there’s to many damn memories & what ifs. My parents want me to move back home 2.
The only problem is- I don’t fit in at home. My parents are VERY VERY traditional Italians. I’m, well I’m not. They want me to be a whole different person than who I am. We fight a lot about it. They love me of course, & I love them. I’m just not free to be who I am. They would want me to raise Jane a different way, which I am NOT comfortable with.
Sigh, I don’t know what to do. I want to, but then again I don’t. It’s to hard living here. I keep excepting Adam to walk in. There’s to many memories, this was home but only with him. Now it’s just a 5 room place full of what ifs. But if I go home (which would only be for a year), I have to change who I am, & change my parenting style. I’m not a bad mother, they would just want her raised a different way.
What would you do?
K- I understand why you would think I’m lying, but I’m not. I promise you that.

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Would you care if your husband was an alcoholic if It didnt affect anything?

  • Posted on April 10, 2011 at 12:17 am

When I met and started to date my husband I realized shortly after that he was a really bad alcoholic. At that point he was really bad. When he asked me to marry him, I said that I would… but I would not be married to an alcoholic. I was raised in a house with drunk parents, and I wanted better for my kids ( I had 2 boys at that point). He wanted to be with me so he stopped drinking. We got married, had a daughter, went through years of being married without him drinking. Then about 6 months ago he started again. At first it was social so I didn’t mind much. But I explained to him That I would leave with the children if it got to the point it use to be. Then about 2 months ago, it started every day. Some days its only a few beers after work, and then some days its 18 beers after work. The thing is, He still gets up, he still goes to work, still is a good husband and father. So is it fair to him for this to bother me? As long as he is still doing everything that needs to be done, should I just let it go? It just scares me because he was HORRIBLE before we got married, and I am scared to death that this is going to happen again. He tells me it wont, but I cant help my fears. I refuse to let my children be around it. But as I said, at this point it effects nothing, I have no idea what to do?

Edit: He was drinking every day like a 30 pack and a fifth. At one point in time he was living on his friends couch. Then him and I got together and I told him I wouldnt be with him. He changed for SOOOO long. I dont mind a social drinker, but can you be a social drinker if you use to be an alcoholic? From what I see you cant be both. He has slipped a few other times. But it was a one day thing, he realized what he did and stopped. I feel like I am being unfair because he is still being a husband and father. Infact, he may be better with the kids now. I dont know anymore… advice?
it started with him thinking he could have a beer if we went out to dinner. as I said, it started as a social thing.

I dont deny it, I know its a problem. If I didnt know, I wouldnt have asked. The fact is getting him to see it as a problem, when it affects nothing in his life, that he can see.

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What would you like to asMy daughter came to me and asked me to take her to the hospital after smoking pot.?k?

  • Posted on April 1, 2011 at 7:22 pm

We were at a family wedding and my 20 year old daughter and all the young cousins were drinking and having lots of fun….We were all staying at a hotel…so no one was driving. After we got back to the hotel and the parents went to sleep…about 3 housrs after the wedding ended.., my daughter decides to hang out with some of the other 20 – 24 year olds that were at the wedding and smoke pot. After a few hits, my daughter starts to feel really bad. She knocked on my hotel door and said she really felt like she was dying and she wanted to go to the hospital.. She looked terrible…she was gray and shaking. The hospital was 8 minutes away…We started to drive her and on the way she started vomiting severely….non-stop for about ffive minutes, so we then called the ambulance who came and transported her to the hospital. When we got to the hospital her heart rate was over 140….the er doctor said that the pot was either laced with something or that she was severely allergic to the pot. My “little angle” insisted that this was her first time trying it…(not real sure if I believe it).. Anyway, my question is waht to do now? I am grateful that she came to me for help, but also real upset that it happened in the first place…….She goes to community college and lives at home and I do not know if there should be consequences for her trying the pot…..Please let me know your opinions… Thanks

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Why would Reconquista Rep. Gutierrez reprimands father of teen killed by DUI illegal alien?

  • Posted on March 28, 2011 at 5:22 am

CNSNews.com) – In emotional testimony before a House joint panel this week, a Virginia man recalled the death of his teenage daughter in 2007 – a death caused by an illegal immigrant who was driving drunk and who had been arrested twice before the crime, but was not deported.

“Two years ago this week, my 16-year-old daughter, Tessa, and her best friend Allison were killed as they were sitting at in intersection waiting for a red light to change,” Ray Tranchant said, as friends placed a photograph of Tessa Tranchant on an easel behind him.

Since his daughter’s death, Tranchant, a professor from VIrginia Beach, has become an advocate for the enforcement of immigration law.

On Thursday, as Tranchant applauded local law enforcement in Virginia for its increased efforts to work with federal immigration authorities since his daughter’s death, he referred to individuals listed on the Immigration and Customs Enforcement’s database of illegal aliens with criminal backgrounds as “banditos.”

That comment drew a rebuff from Rep. Luis Gutierrez (D-Ill.).

“Mr. Tranchant, can I share with you as the father of two daughters, I thank you for bringing your testimony here, but I suggest to you that if we refer to people as banditos, as you referred to them in your testimony, it does not help to solve the problem,” Gutierrez said.
What I have seen, unfortunately, is the will to target and to victimize and to scapegoat a community of people,” Gutierrez said. “I have seen that readily here. It makes for great political points but it doesn’t solve the problem and would not have saved your daughter’s life.”

Gutierrez said anti-immigrant sentiment is not new in this country.

“The Irish [were] the dirty, filthy element that was coming here to undermine America. Well, it gave us a President Kennedy,” he said.

Rep. Gutierrez recently embarked on a five-week tour, visiting 16 American cities, to “document the harm” caused by the lack of “comprehensive immigration reform.” As part of his Family Unity Immigration Outreach Tour, Gutierrez held community meetings for U.S. citizens whose families are at risk of “being torn apart by a broken immigration system.”

http://www.cnsnews.com/public/content/article.aspx?RsrcID=46085

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What would you do if you were in love with a drug addict? PLEASE HELP I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!?

  • Posted on March 28, 2011 at 5:20 am

I am completely in love with a drug addict. This guy has been using drugs for years. Every drug going. He’s been addicted to heroin and crack for 10 years.
He reckons he is clean and he tells me that he loves me. But i know that he doesn’t. He has another life at the weekends. He has a baby daughter who he goes to see and i recently found out that him and his daughters mom are together, Though he completly denies that to me. But he has even had a tatoo of her name done. He said its cause she’s the mother if his child. I know he lies to me about everything. He always asks me for money although he never has anyting to show for it!! He always seems to owe somebody.
I cannot say how much i love him. I want to help him. The things that he says to me makes my heart do somersaults, He says that he has never felt this way about anybody and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Then he’ll disappear and i won’t hear from him for days! I know i’m foolish but i love him. any advice?

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What would you do if you were in love with a drug addict? PLEASE HELP I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!?

  • Posted on March 27, 2011 at 7:23 am

I am completely in love with a drug addict. This guy has been using drugs for years. Every drug going. He’s been addicted to heroin and crack for 10 years.
He reckons he is clean and he tells me that he loves me. But i know that he doesn’t. He has another life at the weekends. He has a baby daughter who he goes to see and i recently found out that him and his daughters mom are together, Though he completly denies that to me. But he has even had a tatoo of her name done. He said its cause she’s the mother if his child. I know he lies to me about everything. He always asks me for money although he never has anyting to show for it!! He always seems to owe somebody.
I cannot say how much i love him. I want to help him. The things that he says to me makes my heart do somersaults, He says that he has never felt this way about anybody and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Then he’ll disappear and i won’t hear from him for days! I know i’m foolish but i love him. any advice?

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