person i help,
first off let me say that i sympathize with you and your sister very much. you are right, it is not fair for you or her to have to go through this. you guys are entitled to the best life you can possibly have and thay is what you should get. i also want to congratulate you and your sister for being as strong as you have through all of this so far. to answer your question, if you tell someone she does this, if her job finds out about it, chances are she could lose her job. i understand and applaud you for wanting to help mom get rid of this habit. she is very lucky to have a son and daughter like you two. i am going to give you some advice that i hope will help you and your sister.
one of the first things is that alcoholism (which is what your mom has) is a diease. not to scare you in any way but that is what they say it is. this simply means that your mom has an addiction to it and she is going to need help to quit her addiction along with a very loving and supportiv
family behind her.
now i dont know your mom that well as to be able to tell you how to approach her about this but one of the first things you need to do is to sit down with her and talk to her about this. if you feel that confrontation will arise as a result then tell someone in your family who you trust about that is going on and have them talk to her. there should be some resources around the place where you live where mom can get some counseling. however, the first step in counseling is for the person (your mom) to admit that she has a drinking problem. sometimes it is hard for people with alcoholism to admit this and sometimes they have to hit rock bottom before they wake up and realize they are messing up their life. if she can admit that she has a problem and know she needs to change then most likely she can overcome this addiction. it is not going to happen overnight either. i have known people with alcoholism to have to go through a conseling program as many as 8 times
before they finally kick the habit. it is going to be a long road but i am sure that your mom can overcome this.
dont give up on her though. i know how tough it is to live with and help someone who has alcoholism. it can be tough most if not all of the time. if for no one else, mom should rehabilitate for you and your sister. let her know how much you love her and want her to be in you and your sisters lives. tell her just how much this has impacted the both of you. when you talk to her about all of this make sure she is sober otherwise you will not get far with this. i dont blame you for pouring the wine down the drain. i hope nothing will happen to you as a result of that. just get the people you trust around you, see if you can get her into some counseling that works around her work schedule so she doesn’t lose her job and then follow the counselors instructions from there. like i said above, dont expect her to quit overnight, she wont and negative attention during counseling
be as calm, cool and sensible as you can.
i know this is hard but something that has to be done. i lived with an alcoholic for 6 years and i went through a lot of suffering as a result. after all this time of me and my family working with them they have cut back but not quit. however they are much better than they were before. try to think positive through these times and tell your sister to do so too. constant negative thinking will cause depression. i know, i have it and have had it ever since 1996. find something for you and your sister to do to keep your minds from worrying during this process. something positive so as when you do confront this issue with mom during her recovery it will not have as big of an impact on the way you feel. even if it is something as simple as going on a walk.
try to get your mom involved in things she likes to do. keeping her mind busy will help her not think of the wine addiction. play a game, go out to eat, go somewhere fun. anything
you can do to keep her from thinking about drinking will be very helpful. like i said before, one of the most important things for you and sister to remember is to not give up. i think if she does do the counseling, with a strong family behind her, she has a great chance of recovering. something else that might be making her drink is something could be stressing her out with her job. think of some ways you and your sister can help her out with things that need to be done when and where you can. a little bit goes a long way.
i hope this helps you a lot. please keep in touch and let me know how this process is going. i will be on my instant messenger for a big part of the day tomorrow. feel free to stop by and say hi. i will talk to you on there if you want. if there is anything more i can do let me know too. i will help if i can. remember to think positive and try not to stay down about this even though it may be tough to do. thanks for your response to my message about contacti
i hope this helps you a lot. please keep in touch and let me know how this process is going. i will be on my instant messenger for a big part of the day tomorrow. feel free to stop by and say hi. i will talk to you on there if you want. if there is anything more i can do let me know too. i will help if i can. remember to think positive and try not to stay down about this even though it may be tough to do. thanks for your response to my message about contacting me and again i hope this helps you and sister get mom the help she needs. take care of yourself and have a good day.
cody (wwefanatic)
this person contacted me to help them get their mom help with a alcohol addiction. this is how i helped them. see there are people on yahoo answers who truly care.
sorry for it being all choppy, it was the only way i could fit it all on here. please dont leave anything rude or vulgar.
