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I’m afraid my ex-husband’s new wife might be abusing our 2 year old, what should I do?

  • Posted on May 15, 2011 at 4:21 am

My ex and I seperated early last year. When we were going to try to work things out, I found out he was seeing a known enemy of mine, so I went ahead with the divorce. They’re married now, she has 3 kids from a previous marriage and now they have another on the way. First off, her children are savages. The two boys and girl, lack discipline and attention. They obviously spend no time teaching them anything and more time putting them in front of TVs so they can smoke their marijuana. (They’ve recently spent their welfare money on medical marijuana cards) So other than the fact that my daughter comes home (from every other weekend at Daddy’s) with sugar addictions and cranky whining (I guess this is how her children get THEIR way instead of using words) she’s starting to act straight traumatized. Her father has recently started attending school so apparently my daughter is spending God knows how much time with this barbaric woman and her disorderly kids. Today, my boyfriend tells me, as he and our daughter arrive home, that she raced out the door in tears. It took me about an hour to calm her down and when i asked her father about it, he promptly responded 45 minutes later (after I confronted his wife) with “She’s fine, you’re ridiculous.” So in conclusion, I know I can’t gain full custody for ill-parenting and nutrition, but what CAN I do?

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My 17 year old daughter was busted for “selling alcohol to minors”?

  • Posted on May 9, 2011 at 8:17 am

She worked as a part-time cashier for Foodlion as an after-school job. She was preoccupied checking out customers one afternoon (it was very busy and she had a long line) and some kid brought up a can of what seemed to be one of those energy drinks and she rang it through without thinking about it. It turned out that the “customer” behind the young man was an undercover agent and what the young man had purchased was an alcoholic drink. (I’m Mormon, I don’t drink alcohol, and I don’t even know what it was or how to identify it. My daughter didn’t know what it was, either.) She got fired from her job, of course, and came home in tears. I was so sad for her, because she loved her job and loved to work.

My daughter is pretty much a responsible girl, although a little naive. She has never been in trouble before. She gets pretty decent grades in school and was planning on going into the army–in fact, she had an appointment with the recruiter this Thursday.

Well, anyway, we had to go to court. This was an utter goat-rope of gigantic proportions. I was trained as a paralegal and yet I never imagined that court would be like this! There was about 300 people of all ages crammed into the courtroom and they had to form a line around the room to make their way up front and plead their case. When it was her turn, we got to this guy who pulled her file and said that she could plead guilty and pay a fine, or go to a juvenile rehab program for which I was to pay $300. Those were our only options. I asked about the option of pleading not-guilty and he just kind of fumbled around and stuttered for a while, and said we could come back to court on another day. He didn’t say when.

Well, sorry, I was a single parent, I spent 2 1/2 months out of work this summer because I was laid-off from my job and had hell trying to find another, and I didn’t have $300 to give to juvenile rehab programs, especially when my daughter doesn’t need rehab. She needs to concentrate on finishing her last year of highschool and go on to her career.

I spent the last couple of months trying to find work and now that I have a job, I can’t afford to take days off to fool around. My time being unemployed caused me to be late on my bills–now I have bill collectors ringing me up all day. I came awful close to being homeless this summer–my church paid my rent for me.

Well, this was back in August. It’s December now and I just got home from work and met my crying daughter at the door. It seems that the sherriff came by to let her know that she would be going to jail tomorrow. What the freak?!! She’s just a little 17-year-old kid and all. Where’s the justice in this?! I now have to take a precious day off work to figure out what I am going to do.

The undercover cop is sitting back all smug and snotty saying he was just doing his job. I can’t stand this.

What can I do?
It was a sting operation, the “customer” and the undercover cop were acting together

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What is good advice to give a 19 year old dating a 26 year old?

  • Posted on May 4, 2011 at 7:20 pm

My 19 yr old daughter lives with me, she works, goes to school and tries to stay out of trouble. A lot of the people she’s known are recently in trouble or dead (from heroin overdose). Thankfully, she does not engage in heavy drug use. But of course she knew him from high school and she is having issues dealing with that. Plus some of her other friends left to college or have been arrested for drugs. This town has a lot of that going on. She met a 26 year old that has befriended her. They work together and he seems like a nice enough guy. I dont judge him but I am a little leary about his intentions. Come on now he is 26. So, what else could he possibly want with a young inexperienced 19 year old. I guess I can give her credit and just let things be. But I really want to be helpful and sorta warn her but not make her feel like she cant make good decisions. This guy just got out of a 5 year reationship like 3 months ago. Thats always hard. Should I just keep my nose out of it and let the chips fall where they may or lend some advice and say be careful..stuff like that.

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A long question about if I should call DOCS 11 year old girl. Sorry it is about confusing?

  • Posted on April 18, 2011 at 7:21 am

OK so my client jessica comes in every week and she has been with her boyfriend for 3 years, he had a daughter to his old girlfriend and after they split up the mother ended up dieing of a heroin overdose. When the mother died the girl went to live with the mothers boyfriend at the time (not her father). DOCS ended up being called becaus he was mistreating the girl not feeding her and would hardly give her anything to dirnk and use to make her stand against a wall all day.

Dos ended up taking the girl of him and too his to live with Jessica and the girls biological father.

Jessica is always coming in complaining “Oh I hate that little bitch”, i feel like crying. She will constantly tell me about how if her and the boyfriend have a fight she will go into the girls room and break all her toys and trash her room.

Jessica and her boyfriend (the girls father) will go out on the weekend and smoke ice and take a mixture of other drugs, If they are not at home smoking it inside (even thought the girl is in the next room) they willl take him to a neighbours house for the night who they dont even know from a bar of soap.

I am sure the girl is well fed and she is going to school. I just feel terrible the things that Jessica tells me and how the smoke ice while the girl is in the house and they leave drugs lying around all the time.

I have a 2 year old and she will still come in say “I dont know why anyone has kids they are horrible I cant stand them, they always get in the way you can never do anything or go anywhere”

Maybe I am over reacting.
What do you think?

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How do I get my 20 year old step son to move out?

  • Posted on April 7, 2011 at 7:21 am

His father and I have been together for 7 years, their relationship is explosive at times. Mostly on the part of our son. the last three weeks we have been hit with he is a heroin addict, we committed him because he tried to kill himself because we wouldn’t let him talk to a girl that deserted him and in our eyes to let him die. he has a 3 year old daughter which has a very bad disease and all he can think off is getting back with the girl who deserted him and the three of them can be one big happy family. She is not allowed to step in our house or on our property, so he uses his sisters house as long as he gets her pot she is ok with anything he wants to do. Even if it is against our rules for him living here. what can I do, how do I get him to take responsibility for him self and his daughter and leave everything else until he can think straight and get well. It hurts me that he uses his dad but more importantly it hurst that he has turned his sister against his dad. what do I do?

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drunk mother wants custody, hasn’t bothered to see our four year old daughter in two years?

  • Posted on April 4, 2011 at 12:17 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
i was acting not nicely??? did you even read the story? why would i let my daughter go spend the weekend with someone she doesn’t know? someone who chose a life of partying over a life with her daughter..someone who didn’t bother to call her own daughter for two years? Would you let your child go with a complete stranger?

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I have a 4 year old grandchild, Zoe’, that I KNOW is being abused. What can I do? Can I get custody? PLEASE

  • Posted on March 31, 2011 at 5:20 pm

I love my son Jeff, more than life. 4 yrs ago he had a baby with a girl that ran off to New York to be a Stripper when Zoe’ was a few months old. Immediately, this 18-yr-old girl came out of nowhere. She and her mother are full blown narcassists. They have treated Zoe’, me and Jeff HORRIBLE. Recently, birthmom comes back, demands DNA test and of course Jeff is not Zoe’s biological father. Jeff’s dad is a well known child molester. Jeff and Natalie had a baby, didn’t want to be bothered with Zoe’ so she was sent to the pedaphile. Zoe’ stayed with her other grandmother, Carol. Carol’s 16 yr-old daughter on probabtion for meth, has been waking Zoe’ up in the night making Zoe’ suck her nipples and God only knows what else. This child is in severe trouble. Her mother Jessica has mentioned that her new husband wants to adopt Zoe’. This guy is bad news, I just know it. Zoe’ needs to be completely taken away from ALL of those people, including my beloved son. Please someone…help

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dead beat mom wants custody, hasn’t seen four year old daughter in two years?

  • Posted on March 30, 2011 at 10:17 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time and my wife had been out drinking. This was the case when she lived farther away too. Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter. Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible, I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again, She stopped calling after a few days. Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday. When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny. My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy) and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her. We have met with our lawyers and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of actually winning full custody or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

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My 2 year old daughter keeps waking up in the middle of the night and throws up?! HELP!?

  • Posted on March 21, 2011 at 7:23 pm

I think it may have something to do with milk. The other day we went for a drive, and she had some milk. On the way home she threw it up! But she drinks milk everyday. It doesn’t happen during the day. Mostly at night after shes been sleeping. It doesn’t happen every night or anything like that. I was just thinking maybe she might have an allergy to milk. Is she getting too much milk maybe??

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Would you let your 15 year old daughter to go to a Bring Me the Horizon concert with a bunch of friends?

  • Posted on March 5, 2011 at 8:20 pm

My dad said that I could go, but I HAVE to go with him….apparently I’m not “old enough” to make wise choices and to not do anything bad. (Trust me, I am NOT like that.) He’s really over protective, and quite frankly, I think that I can handle being at a concert with 8 or 9 friends! he doesn’t let me do anything! I’m not going to go into any mosh pits (I’m barely 5’2, and I’m 95 pounds; i’m not stupid)

He’s afraid of me getting “exposed” to bad things (which I have anyway, my stepmom smokes weed in the house, and I don’t live a sheltered life.) as if I haven’t already. (The city we live in has the most meth labs in size comparison to anywhere in the USA.) HAHA.

BMTH is a really heavy screamo band, btw, but there will be other “pansy” bands there. (It’s the taste of chaos) and it’s not like it’s gonna be full of 30 year old men, more like 13 year old “scene” kids. lololol
Trust me on this, my dad will NOT be fun to be around. He will make me stay away from the band, and leave right after it’s over. I won’t even get to get a picture with Oli Sykes!

He’ll just mope and complain and b!!tch about how much my music tastes ”suck”.
Yeah he’s like 47. lololol.

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