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my 8 year old has a stealing problem, what can i do?

  • Posted on March 1, 2011 at 10:21 pm

my eight year old daughter has a real bad stealing problem, along with an even worse lying addiction. I am afraid she is heading down the same jail related road i did. Is there any programs I can send her to (in Georgia) that may scare her straight? Counseling does not help, we have done tried that.
i have also already carried her up to the police station, and escorted her to the principals office to return some stolen goods… to let her know Im not playin

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My 16 year old daughter is dating a 19 year old neo-nazi white supremacist! how do we get her to leave him?

  • Posted on February 28, 2011 at 2:20 am

How do we get her to leave this guy? He has a swastika tattooed on the back of his head and he and his brother still live with their mom and sell meth outta his basement! she’s considering dropping out of high school for him. They are already having sex (nothing we can do about that) and I’m scared that they might get her pregnant since we forbid her from using condoms in order to sway her form having sex. it seems useless now. what do we do? she won’t listen to us!

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What would convince you to allow your 16 year old daughter spend the night with boys and girls?

  • Posted on February 27, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Ok, so I will be a junior in high school next year, and my friends throw parties with alcohol. To avoid drinking and driving, people just bring sleeping bags and spend the night wherever the party was hosted.
So, my parents are fine with me drinking alcohol, but they arn’t okay with me spending the night with guys. They are afraid something bad will happen.
But nothing bad does happen. First of all, I would never do anything like that. And second, the guys, besides drinking and occasionally street-racing, are good guys, and none of them would try something.
I try to point this out to my parents, but they are just like well you may thing they won’t, but we don’t know that.
I don’t like lying to my parents, so what could I do to change their minds?

Also, please, if you arn’t going to answer the question I asked, don’t bother answering. I will just ignore “you should wait until you’re older to drink” type responses.
And don’t assume things about me and my parents. My parents are amazing, even if they are stricter than I wish sometimes. And I am a good person even if I do drink occasionally. I have all As or A-s in school, and my teachers like me. I’m not the stereotypical “bad kid” image that people sometimes think of with underage drinking.

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Does my 19 year old daughter need to seek therapy about her complusive shopping?

  • Posted on February 16, 2011 at 10:21 am

She has her own job and currently is the owner of a debit card. She spends like its going out of style. there is NO need for her to be buying 40 dollar bras, 60 dollar jeans, 300 dollar handbags, and fishing out 26 dollars for mascara, 14 dollars for eyeliner, and 14 dollars for lipgloss. that is completely uncalled for. So I just told her to hand me over her wallet, and i took her debit card Apparently she cannot control her shopping urges, so i’m doing it for her. She calls it retail therapy. i call it an ADDICTION that needs to be medicated. I told her she will not step FOOT into a shopping mall for 3-4 months. and she will also not be allowed to buy anything. She has enough clothes in her room to last her a lifetime i’m sure, what’s the need for more. I caught her in her room crying.

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Does My Alcoholic Ex-wife Have A Chance At Getting Custody? Hasn’t Seen Four Year Old Daughter In two years..?

  • Posted on February 15, 2011 at 9:23 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Also during this time she was using my car which i gave her money to make payments and buy gas so she could come visit and drive our daughter places. But of course she used the money for something else (going out to the bars) and i had to make the payments again myself.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before.

Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

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My meth addicted sister accidentally lit my 4 year old on fire… any suggestions?

  • Posted on February 13, 2011 at 5:20 pm

I’m still angry with her, and this was over the summer while she was babysitting my 4 year old daughter. She totally looks like a “crispy critter”, unfortunately I’m too poor to give her very good treatment. My sister is sorry, I won’t talk to her anymore and I don’t care about her life even.

But you know what, I take no shame in bringing my daughter around in public. Looks are superficial, it’s on the inside what counts, right? I hope my sister wastes away slowly and painfully. I wouldn’t even urge her to commit suicide because I enjoy watching her deteriorate.

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how would you approach this? My eight year old daughter…?

  • Posted on February 13, 2011 at 1:21 am

She is beautiful, intelligent, kind and accepting,extremely outspoken and opinionated. I am blessed. She has been thru more than she should have, being taken from me two years ago due to a very bad drug addiction…lives with her father and step mother, they provide physically but not much emotionally.I have just recently regained unsupervised visitation and everything is finally becoming a little more normal to her, bless her heart.. She has been very strong, and I know she holds so much inside of her.She visited with me this weekend, she opens up to me about everything…. she doesn’t tell her dad much b/c his past reactions have been hurtful to her. nightmares and he said she better go back to sleep or else. no comforting, just very hard, I know him, I was married to him.This weekend, she asked me…. mama, is it wrong to feel like you want to kick somebody in the face”she was angry, about to cry. the situation is with a girl at school who she says is “popular” but “mean”
I’ve listened and understand of course this situation… it happens at this age, with girls…it’s normal I know. Of course I want to go take care of the situation myself…. in a not so nice way…. that’s not an option obviously. I hurt for my lil girl, and although I know this is something she will face… It’s really bothering her deep down I think more than normal… I think it may be more than this lil girl, I think my daughter is just feeling all that she’s kept inside of her…. I don’t know what to do, please any advise you can give. She goes to a private school with a very “upper class” reputation…. I am glad she is able to attend there… but she doesn’t have a snobby bone in her body, and thus doesnt’ understand someone who is just unkind. I have told her to either ignore this girl, or to smile at her and continue to be friendly… that’s easy to say though, for her to do it, that’s tough. she has so many friends. I want to be what a mother should be in this situation.
Bobby K– If I didn’t have a limit on the number of words in my question I may have come across differently…. yes, I am extremely thankful to him… and he does know that, he’s a wonderful father… and yes… I did choose drugs over my child, I admit that…. but everyday for the past two years of my life I have chosen my child over drugs, I cannot undo my past, but I have gotten up and moved forward, maybe you don’t understand that… but that’s not my problem, and not my question either. My daughter growing up and doing drugs because she wants to be like her mother…. I pray every day that my past can help me in the influence that I now have in her life. I know what guilt feels like, I deal with it every single day… thoughts come into my mind that sound a he*l of alot like your answer… I want to be there for her, I do work “with” her father and he does work “with” me. We are very different, neither of us better than the other. it’s not about “us” it’s about “her”.
thinkpos… — Superficial child??? I’m confused

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Ways to keep my 8 year old hydrated after going to Er for dehydration?

  • Posted on February 9, 2011 at 11:24 am

Ok, long story short my daughter has been having weird stomach cramps off and on for the last month. They come and go in waves. I called her Dr who thought it was her lactose intolerance flaring up ( she had probs with it when younger) and to watch her dairy intake. Which I did. I noticed she would get constipated, her stomach would cramp up and she’d be running to the bathroom to have a massive BM. So I figured it was all bowel probs. She never went to the Dr
Over the past few days her pains started getting worse and not even having a BM would relieve her. Well, yesterday afternoon I got a call from ehr daycare that she was sick…doubled over in pain, no fever, but couldn’t move and was dry heaving ( but never actually puked). I called her Dr and made an appointment for today before I realized how bad she was.
Once I picked her up and saw how bad she was I immediately rushed her to the ER thinking it was appendicitis. Still, no fever. ER gave her meds to help the nausea and ran tests and started a saline drip.
Dr came back, said all tests were negative, except her urine was extremely concentrated and she is very dehydrated. In fact, once the IV fluids kicked in it was like she was a whole other person. Instant energy and high spirits. He discharged her after giving the IV fluids to hydrate, with instructions to keep hydrated and a prescription for Pepcid to prevent ulcers due to all the bowel probs, etc.
I immedialty took her to the store upon being discharged to get the script filled ( 1 a day for 30 days), get soup for dinner and get her some Gatorade. She was doing better this morning, so I sent ehr to daycare, but talked to the director to say what happened and have them watch her extra close.
ER said if she doesn”t get btr or shows signs of getting bad again I have to take her back for more IV. My question is…do you know any ways to keep this from happening again? ER DR thinks she has been dehydrated the past month, causing the cramps and bowel issues and it just got way worse and out of hand. he literally told me I “brought her in just in time”.Another 24 hours coulda caused severe probs such as kidney issues.
I packed her with plenty of Gatorade to keep hydrated at daycare. But she goes to the local Y and they are outside and on field trips a lot. My dghtr drinks water, but DR said she sweats most of it out..causing the dehydration. How can I keep this from happening again, or even getting worse as today the temp is expected to reach 97 and rise each day from now. By the end of the week we are supposed to be in the 100′s and it’s only June.
I was told dehydration can literally shut ur body dwn and I dnt want to see that happen to her…she was in so much pain as it was yesterday. Today her face is swollen, esp around her left cheek and eye. She feels hungry, but gets a tummy ache after only a few bites. Is this from the dehydration and body trying to adjust? Someone please help! Any advice or ideas will be helpful. Please!
and sorry this was so long, I thought that letting you know how it started a month ago may be helpful to you to help answer.

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All the Moms out there: What would you do if you found out your 13 year old daughter was prostituting?

  • Posted on February 8, 2011 at 1:22 pm

Okay, I saw a Tyra episode about a girl who was only 13 years old when she first started prostituting. She said she wanted new things, like clothes and accessories, and didn’t want to ask her mother or step father for money(she knew they were having a hard time, money-wise.)
She couldn’t get a job, mainly because she’s only 13, the only job she could get was baby-sitting, and she thought it’d be better to get 150 dollars for 5 minutes, rather than $6.50 an hour. She set up meets on an online chatting site. She said she had sex with perhaps 15 men, but they were repeating. She told them she was 19, I personally don’t think they believed, but wanted the sex so bad. Later, she told them she was only 13, but they continued to come back. She stopped buying clothes and things for herself, and started spending it on(somehow)getting cocaine.
What would you do, mothers, in this situation? If you found out, whether it be you were snooping through her phone, or online.
Oh, uh, sorry, fellas.
She’s actually 14, I fought the video on Youtube(I watched it as a rerun on my TV)
And she was sneaking out at night, so her mom and stepdad was sleeping.
Here’s the link the episode —-> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fx3SrhmqOtQ

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A question for Mothers: What would you do/think if you found out your 14 year old daughter was prostituting?

  • Posted on February 5, 2011 at 1:21 pm

Okay, I saw a Tyra episode about a girl who was only 14 years old when she first started prostituting. She said she wanted new things, like clothes and accessories, and didn’t want to ask her mother or step father for money(she knew they were having a hard time, money-wise.)
She couldn’t get a job, mainly because she’s only 14, the only job she could get was baby-sitting, and she thought it’d be better to get 150 dollars for 5 minutes, rather than $6.50 an hour. She set up meets on an online chatting site. She said she had sex with perhaps 15 men, but they were repeating. She told them she was 19, I personally don’t think they believed, but wanted the sex so bad. Later, she told them she was only 14, but they continued to come back. She stopped buying clothes and things for herself, and started spending it on(somehow)getting cocaine.
What would you do, mothers, in this situation? If you found out, whether it be you were snooping through her phone, or online.
Link to the epsiode —-> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fx3SrhmqOtQ

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